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How to Win an Argument Against Your Girlfriend

Dear Wheeler,

I never win an argument with my girlfriend. She always ends up twisting the situation to her advantage and never gives me the chance to explain my side. I hate it. I wish I could win against her once in a while. Any suggestions?

Thanks

Kyle

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Dear Kyle,

Has nobody told you that there is no point arguing against a woman? They often have great rebuttals and even resort to emotional tactics just to get their way. Their tears are their most powerful weapon (okay, make that their SECOND most powerful weapon) and once the first drop falls you are doomed.

Having said that, let me fill you in on a little secret. Men can win arguments once in a while. It should never happen too much because the ladies will only make your lives more difficult. Here are my suggestions on how you can win that epic battle:

1. Learn the difference between “you never listen to me” and “i feel like my feelings do not matter.” The first statement sounds like an accusation and an attack. The second statement, on the other hand, make you look like a victim. She will have a tendency to feel sorry for you and listen to whatever it is that you want to say.

2.  Don’t tell her to “chill out.” Let her air out her emotions and never make her feel that you don’t value her feelings. Telling her to chill out will not give you the results that you desire. 

3. Keep your friends out of it. Whatever it is that your friends feel about her, do not let her know. She probably hates your friends because they “steal” your time from her. Giving importance to their opinions while you are having an argument with her is a sure way of lighting the fuse of doom. 

4. If she asks you if you have any idea why she is being upset at you, LIE. Tell her that you understand why she’s mad and you can discuss it with her if she likes. This will take her aback and will give you the chance to think of an escape route.

Being the victim will work wonders for you, my friend. But don’t overdo it or she will suspect that you’re up to something. Let me know if this helps.